This week, I was thinking a lot about potential and how people can help us avoid hitting a ceiling on our growth.
There are probably a lot of different kinds of people who could really help us in that pursuit, but I’ve chosen to focus on these three because they’re probably readily accessible in our lives, but maybe we haven’t even noticed.
Hopefully with this encouragement, you’ll be more intentional about finding them.
1. People who follow you.
The first group consists of the people who follow you.
You may not look at yourself as a leader, but, quite honestly, there is always someone – regardless of where you are in your life, regardless of your age, whether you’re in your twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, sixties or older – that is watching the kind of life you’re living.
There are parts of us right now that are inspiring them. There are things that they see in our lives that they want, or character traits that they aspire to be like. It’s important to be really intentional about looking for these people.
Many of you know, I work as a coach trainer. Right now, I am mentoring 125 coaches from around the world. Every week, I lead a group coaching call to help them get to the next level as coaches, but also as business people. I look forward to meeting with these people from all parts of the world like Greece, South Africa, Canada, the United States, etc. These people join me every week, and when they pull on my wisdom, when they pull on my experience, it just makes me want to be a better version of myself.
I come to life, because they’re drawing on parts of me – sometimes parts of me that I’ve frankly I take for granted – that I didnt think that were that big of a deal. A lot of times, your greatness is on display in times and moments during the day that are very common and have no fanfare. You’re just doing what’s expected of you. But those are the moments where your character is really on display, and people are watching.
Recently, I’ve become aware of a young man who has this extraordinary potential.
When I would run into him, he would ask me some really great questions about business and want my input. The other day I was like: “I want to invest in this guy.”
The best part of helping people who are aspiring is we get to open our hands and give away what they cannot afford. We actually impart something of ourselves, and there’s something that’s happening in that human transaction that makes us step into our potential.
Sometimes it’s younger people who are just looking at how I relate to my wife in my marriage. Other times, I’ve had people watch how I relate to my kids and tell me they wish they had the kind of father that I am to my children. You see, these kinds of conversations are indicators of people who’d like to follow us.
I’ve heard these stories for the last 20 years, and, now that I’m in my 40’s, I’ve learned to pay a lot more attention, because these kinds of individuals are holding a key for my life.
Most people are not poured into. Most people are not engaged in a meaningful kind of way. You can start recognizing that in your life right now: Who’s riding in your wake? Who is just behind you in your stage of life?
It will help you take the lid off of your potential.
2. Peers who challenge you.
I look for these people consistently because I believe in this concept that “iron sharpens iron.”
I look for people who kind of irritate me, who kind of provoke me in the best way possible. I look for others to run alongside me who will compete with me.
Now some people think of competition as though it means we want to defeat someone at something. That’s actually competition from the perspective of lack.
I’m thinking of it from a wealth and a prosperity perspective in that I want to surround myself with great people. I want to see people who are doing similar things – not always identical to what I’m doing – they’re at a certain stage, and they want something more. Often with people who are my own age, I find they’re having kids and they’re buying houses, and it causes them to settle and not want anything more.
For me, I want to look for people who want something more, and I long for those relationships, because I want accountability. Usually when you hear the term “accountability” it’s about people holding one another accountable for not doing the wrong thing. I’m personally not worried about doing the wrong thing. I’m more worried about missing out on the right things I was made to do. I want to have accountability in my life for my greatness. I want people to call it out in me.
I want to notice it and other people as well. There’s nothing weak about telling other people they are great.
I encourage you to look for the kinds of people who will run really fast and really far, far with you.
You’ve probably heard the saying that you can go really fast by yourself. You can go really far with people. But, the reality is, you can actually run really fast and far with the right kinds of people. And that’s what I’m looking for.
I encourage you to look for those people this week.
3. A person whose life right now scares the crap out of you!
Sorry, there’s no other way to really say it.
Who can you name that has some aspect of their life that you want, but it’s also terrifying at the same time?
What I really believe is that the thing that’s keeping us from going to the next level in our life most of the time is fear. Fear of the unknown. It’s something that’s scary. It’s a place where we haven’t confronted things in our life and we’re insecure. We’re disqualifying ourselves in certain areas. Maybe we’re afraid of failure or whatever.
I want to look for the people who have gone ahead of me in those areas.
I want to look for a person who has lived the story, who’s fought the battles I want to fight. I want to see the scars.
I want to look for the people who have success in a certain area where I’m not there yet.
Right now, you might be reading their books, watching their videos, or listening to their podcasts.
Some years ago, I was doing some interviews with various successful people. One thing I discovered was if I just sent an email requesting an interview to hear their story, it was amazing how many of those people – like 90 something percent of those people – said “Yes, you can interview me.” They would do it for free. They would spend an hour, sometimes two hours of their time with me.
You are connected to anybody that you want to reach out to you right now.
You are one phone call, one email away from actually some of the greatest minds and some of the greatest mentors that that are in the world presently.
Don’t think they are too busy or devalue yourself into think you’re not important enough for them to talk to.
But these people aren’t always so far away either. Some of those people live in your own town.
There is someone right now that would speak into your life – even if that means one time a month.
I wouldn’t be able to get to the level that I’ve gotten to in my life or I wouldn’t be going after the things that I’m going after in my life if it wasn’t for the people who lived bold, scary lives helping me take the lid off.
Think about who those people might be for you.
This week, think intentionally who is following you, who is holding up the mirror, who is running with you right now? Who should you being doing life with that could sharpen you? Who are the people right now that their lives terrify you, but whose success you want to pursue?
Look intentionally for those kinds of people, and I guarantee you’ll take the lid off your potential!